How to Sustain Love
Speaker: Bonnie Sala | Series: Reset | “And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.” Colossians 3:14
Love does not discriminate by age; it can suck each of us into a sweet, chaotic irrationality. Yet lasting love involves repeated choices. True love is hard, drawn- out work. Jesus recognized this, saying, “Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples” (John 13:35 NLT).
How can we sustain love? We must choose to see the good in others rather than focusing on things that bother you. Instead of zeroing in on loud snoring and dirty dishes, focus on ways in which your partner shines. Make a list of their strengths. Next, focus on your role, not theirs. We quickly point out what we’re not getting from a relationship and how the other is failing. Ask God to show you what needs to be corrected in your own life and ask Him to meet your needs. Rely on His strength. Godly love that does not envy or boast, and isn’t arrogant, irritable, or resentful (1 Corinthians 13) requires the transforming power of the Holy Spirit. Elisabeth Elliot wrote, “The secret is Christ in me, not me in a different set of circumstances [or with a different person].”
Love chooses to surrender the will to Christ. When we invite God to work in our lives, we can receive His divine capacity to choose love. Ask the Holy Spirit to empower you and make the choice to love, today.
Resource reading: 1 Corinthians 13:4-7