Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. Colossians 3:13
What do you do when someone hurts you—and they don’t say they’re sorry?
Maybe it was a betrayal, or words that cut deep. Maybe it was abandonment, dishonesty, or something so painful that even thinking about it makes your chest tighten. And the person? They’ve never owned it. Never acknowledged what they did. Never apologized.
So now you’re left with the ache … and the choice.
Tanisha lent her brother a large sum of money, but he never paid it back. They had always been close, and she trusted him. But when he ghosted her and pretended nothing had happened, Tanisha was devastated. She said, “Forgiving felt like letting him get away with it. But holding on to my anger was eating me alive.”
Forgiveness isn’t saying what happened was okay. It’s not pretending you’re fine. And it doesn’t always mean restoring a broken relationship. Forgiveness is a decision to release the debt into God’s hands. It’s saying, “What they did hurt. But I won’t carry this anymore.”
Jesus knows that kind of pain. He was betrayed by friends, falsely accused, beaten, and crucified. And still He prayed, “Father, forgive them.” The Bible says, “Make allowance for each other’s faults … forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.” (Colossians 3:13)
Forgiveness sets you free. You may not get the apology. You may never understand why they did what they did. But you can still walk in freedom—peaceful, whole, and healed by the love of Jesus.
Lay it down. Let Him carry what you’ve been carrying for too long. He sees. He understands. And He will never stop loving you.
