Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins. I Peter 4:8
What does it take to love someone for a lifetime?
A counselor sitting across from an unhappy married couple asked them a surprising question: “Are there things you used to do together that you’d like to start doing again?” The husband reflected on how they used to hold hands while watching a movie together. He missed that simple affection that reflected a shared bond. The wife also said she missed small things like him offering to help with dishes or surprising her with a coffee date in the middle of the day. The gestures they both longed to connect over were ordinary. Neither one needed regular grand gestures or the type of romance they saw in the movies. The little things that made them feel seen and cherished came in the form of small, personal acts of consideration and care.
It’s so easy to overlook the little acts of kindness that bring connection to one another. When an 80-year-old widow was asked what she missed most about her husband who had passed away, it was the five minutes in bed they spent talking about their plans for the day, first thing in the morning. Those regular, sweet times made her feel they were partners in life.
God tells us to keep at it when it comes to love. Scripture says, “Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins” (I Peter 4:8). People receive love in different ways so showing love to your spouse might not involve what you think is important. Don’t assume that you know—if you ask them what matters to them, you’ll have the map and the key to their heart. It’s the way to continue to show love… for a lifetime.
